Rainy Days Make Me Contemplate Life

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Rainy Days Make Me Contemplate Life…

It is interesting that rainy days force me into deep introspection. Maybe it is the changing of seasons from winter to spring? I’m not sure, but today it is rainy and I can’t get my brain to shut down.

I have a lot of change going on right now. I am about to begin a new MS medication. I have an upcoming procedure for an on-going medical issue. My role in my job is changing. I am in month 3 of therapy which brings its own challenges. And the combination of all these things happening at the same time has my head spinning.

Rain feels refreshing. It washes away the dirt and the pollen and brings about growth and life. Rain represents new beginnings and a chance for a fresh start.

Sometimes I would like the option to hit pause. I’d like to be able to stop life from happening so quickly and take a moment to breathe; collect my thoughts before other events cause new thoughts and worries. But, alas, it isn’t an option. Regardless of how overwhelming things can seem, this rock keeps on spinning and I have to find a way to work through problems while maintaining my composure.

Maybe I could clone myself and use my clone like a stuntman in a movie?! Every time I need a break I just call in the clone to take my place for a day while I relax on the couch?

Now that is a solution I could get behind.

Danny

You Don’t Get Big Bucks For What You Do, But What You Know

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You Don’t Get Big Bucks For What You Do, But What You Know…

I might be late to the table, but I had some recent thoughts on the fast food workers versus $15 per hour wage debate. For those of you who might not be familiar with the debate, the fast food workers in the United States have been demanding a pay increase to $15 per hour. My thoughts began when Evelina and I went on our New York road trip and a McDonald’s location had a ton of self-serve kiosks.

Listening to the fast workers argue for more money reminded me of something a friend of mine told me many years ago. He said, “You don’t get paid big bucks for what you do, but what you know.” At that time he was a pilot and I was a golf pro. He made a great salary and I made an average salary. His point was that he got paid big dollars not to fly a plane, but to keep it from crashing. He had knowledge that the common person didn’t have; that being how to fly and land a jumbo jet full of passengers.

I on the other hand was a golf pro and golf pros are a dime-a-dozen. There was no particular knowledge that I possessed that any other golf pro didn’t possess. And when you work a job which isn’t based on specialized knowledge, you put yourself in a position to have your pay limited. And you shouldn’t be surprised when it is.

Most jobs have a pay ceiling. If I walked into my bosses office tomorrow and asked for twice the going rate for my position I better be one heck of a sales person or get prepared to have my request denied.

Once I recognized the value of specialized knowledge I dedicated myself to developing specific skills in my current role and voila, an opportunity presented itself.

I have recognized that if I want to make 4, 5 or even 10 times what I make now, that I must know something that others don’t know; especially something my company wants that I possess particular knowledge about.

No offense to fast food workers, but there is no particular, specialized skill set needed to perform their duties. And because of this fact, their pay will always be capped. Even if they get a raise to $15 per hour, how long will it be until they demand $18 or $20 per hour? At this point we are talking simple economics; the pay will eventually exceed the value of the job.

Don’t make the same mistake, make sure what you know is incredibly desirable and sought after, not ordinary and commonplace.

Danny

When Did I Become the Old Guy?

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When Did I Become the Old Guy?

There is the funny thing that I have noticed in my life lately: youngsters are calling me “sir”. Now some might be shocked that I have been around young people who have manners, but that isn’t my point. I can’t believe I’ve gotten to a place where I’m not viewed as being young by someone who is young.

You see, in my mind I still view myself as an energetic 28-year-old. Barring a few aches and pains I see myself as being instantly ready for full-court basketball. Or possibly a wrestling match. Or even 54 holes of golf. I’m ready to conquer the world. Jump in a car at any moment for a last-minute road trip.

And then my mental self-image is crushed with a “Thank you sir.” or “Sir, would you like XXX.”

And it is at that moment that my mind begins to compare and it is in that moment that the comparison falls woefully short. I am no longer 28 years old. I can no longer play 54 holes of golf in one day. I cannot play full-court basketball. And I’m okay with that. I’ve adjusted over the years to my life and I have peace with my life and where it is headed.

I guess it is a little difficult to admit that I am no longer young and cannot do the things I did in my youth. I don’t have a problem with not being young so why does it sting a little to be called “sir”?

“It takes a long time to become young.” Pablo Picasso

Is the Way You Manage Stress Holding You Back?

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Is the Way You Manage Stress Holding You Back?

I am going to be completely transparent here and say that I don’t deal with stress well. I tend to over-analyze and dwell or things that are directly in front of me. I work through the question tree, anticipating any and all outcomes and what my response will be. I worry. And it is not a healthy way of dealing with stressful situations in my life.

How do you manage your stress?

Do you dwell? Or do you let stress run off you like water off a duck’s back?

If you are the latter then congratulations. Unfortunately for me my mind does not operate like that. So because I realize I have “down the rabbit hole” thinking, I must find cues to remind me to control my thinking. I cannot allow stressful situations to send me into a death spiral of over-analyzing.

Here’s what I do. When my mind begins dwelling and hyper-focusing on one thing I tell myself the following: “There is nothing you can do right now except what you can do. Control what you can control and let the rest be what it is.” This is a reminder to me to let the future go and stop worrying.

For a long time I allowed myself to make excuses to justify worrying and having an out-of-control mind. “It’s how I’m geared.” “It’s just how my personality works.” “I don’t worry, I get my mind prepared.”

All off the following are just a few of the excuses I used to justify my mind. I am finding that I can change how my mind works, but it takes discipline and a desire to change. Every day I go through a process check to make sure I am not allowing my mind to control me.

It isn’t easy and I’m not always successful, but I will eventually get this under control. The key is I acknowledge that I have a problem with handling stress, I have a process to change my behavior and I am committed to changing.

“I cannot control the future, I can only control right here, right now. The future will be what it will be so let it go.”

Danny

My Friends Are Beginning To Die

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DannyMy friends are beginning to die…

There’s this thing that begins to happen as you get older…people around you begin dying. Each week it seems that I see someone I knew in the obit section of the local paper. I’ve heard people talk about this phenomenon in the past, but then I was younger I didn’t put much thought into it. But, now I am in that place in life and it is a bit unsettling.

Last week I saw two updates on Facebook that 2 people I have known for nearly 20 years had both passed away. One guy was in his seventies and the other in his sixties. I will admit that it puts life in perspective quickly and has reminded me that I’ll be 60 before I realize.

For those of you who follow my page who are in the early years of life (twenties), don’t take your youth for granted. Now I understand that youth will always be taken for granted as you cannot appreciate being young until you are older; life has a funny way of being ironic.

Nonetheless I’ve been thinking quite a bit about my mortality lately and I’m not sure how I feel about getting older. It is a weird sensation reading about friend after friend dying.

Danny

If You Want Change, You Must Focus On New Experiences

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If You Want Change, You Must Focus On New Experiences…

I had an phone conversation with someone many moons ago who spent the entire conversation lamenting how she could not lose weight. Science tells us that humans who consume the right amount of calories of the right types of food will eventually shed pounds. It may take some longer than others, but the body will eventually respond. And some people will have to adhere to a strict eating regimen as well.

This person spent the entire conversation telling me this simply is not true; her experience, as she stated, was that she had tried everything and nothing worked. So I asked her if she ate vegetables….”no, I don’t eat vegetables.” Then I asked if she consumed healthy fruits and nuts…”no, I don’t like nuts and I only eat apples.” Next I asked her if she ate lean proteins…”I only like beef.” Then during the rest of the conversation she revealed that she ate a lot of processed boxed “food”, fast food, pasta, ice cream, candy and many other junk-type foods; including sodas.

Keep in mind that she also explained to me that she believed she ate healthy and that she had tried everything to be healthier, but nothing worked. But she wouldn’t eat veggies, fruits or lean proteins and ate tons of junk food.

She said many times she would love to lose some weight and be healthier, but then backed that statement up every time with “but I’m not willing to change XXX.”

Better results will never come from the same actions that produced bad results.

I don’t like fish, but I’m adding a lot of fish to my current eating regimen. I don’t prefer spinach, but I’m adding it to my recipe book. I don’t prefer salads, but I am adding green leafy plants to my eating habits. Why? Because if I don’t do something different then I will not experience change.

The truth about my friend is she didn’t really want to change. People who make up their mind to change say something like “I know I need to change therefore I am willing to do whatever it takes to change.” I have heard every excuse in the book and I simply refuse to listen to those types of people.

“I eat mostly healthy” usually means I don’t eat healthy at all.

Let me hop down off my soap box for a minute and get back to me.

Back in February I decided to get some weight off as I was getting a little pudgy. Since then I’ve lost weight, especially around my waistline and I’ve done so by cutting out a lot of sugar and making better food choices. Living with MS restricts my physical activities so it is imperative that I choose my foods wisely. When I choose better quality foods my body burns fat. When I choose low-quality foods my body stores fat. And as the title of this post states I am committed to eating new things so that I get new results. I simply cannot expect to get great results by committing to poor habits.

It is 100% about the choices I make. If I really want to be healthier I’ll make better choices. Period.

Danny

You Should Never, Ever Compare Yourself To Others

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You should never, ever compare yourself to others…

One of the lowest points of my life was around 2005 while I was working in the golf business. I had a decent job at a good club and I was completely miserable. I was surrounded by members who had more than me. They had better jobs, better homes, better cars and more money. And I spent the vast majority of my time looking at them with envy. I wanted everything they had, but more importantly I didn’t want what I had.

I spent many years comparing myself to others and feeling completely inadequate. Those years of comparing my behind the scenes to their highlight reel nearly ruined me. I drank heavily and lamented my lack of achievement. It was not a fun time.

What I would eventually realize was that if I continued to compare myself to anyone other than myself then I would always be miserable. So I changed my thinking.

I began to compare me to me.

I decided that I would focus solely on becoming everything I wanted to be not on becoming what other were or what others had. I realized that if I wanted something I would have to go get it. I would have to change. I would have to leave golf and go challenge myself. And that is what I did.

But of all the life changes the single most important was the changing of my mind; I changed the way I thought.

Change begins in an instant and that instant is the exact moment when you decide in your own mind that once and for all you are going to take action.

That was my experience when I decided I was no longer going to compare myself to others.

Danny

You Should Dare To Be a Rower, Not a Rocker

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You Should Dare To Be a Rower, Not a Rocker…

A friend once said to me “Those who are busy rowing don’t have time to rock the boat.”

For some reason this adage has landed on me hard. In today’s world you find there are people who are really good at manipulating and they are not always genuine when they make inquiries of what is going on in your world. They seek out conversations to steal snippets, take them out of context and then use them as ammunition to slander.

You learn who these people are the hard way and I have learned.

So I have a brand new personal policy: I don’t talk about anything or anyone which doesn’t pertain to the exact job I’m doing and the exact person I’m working with. If anyone ever approaches me about any topic that has nothing to do with me I immediately excuse myself from the conversation.

I figure that if I’m never a part of these types of conversations, then I can never get caught up in other people’s crap.

There are many people in life who are more concerned with other people’s business than they are in being the best they can be. They invest a tremendous amount of energy in frivolous activities many of which are absolutely counterproductive to anyone being successful.

I work to be world-class at what I do and over the last 18 months I have become one of our best; and I’m proud of the hard work I’ve invested. I focus on keeping my head down, doing my job to the best of my ability and getting results.

I don’t have time to rock the boat because I am too busy working and producing.

One eye-opening revelation for me has been that there are boat-rockers in positions throughout your life. People want to talk about others (gossip). A friend of mine calls it jealousy and I have witnessed it first-hand. I don’t understand it because it isn’t in my nature to talk about people behind their back.

I have a lot to learn and a lot of people on which to keep my eye!

I guess the question we must all ask is…Am I a rower or am I a rocker?

Danny

Why Are You Better Off Ignoring Haters?

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Why Are You Better Off Ignoring Haters?

There are always going to be haters in your life. They could be in your family, at your job, at your place of worship or maybe in your neighborhood. There are people who are going to resent somebody for something and it doesn’t really matter who it is or why they hate; they just need to hate. Family might be tougher to deal with than others, but it is better to ignore the haters.

You cannot allow them to redirect any of your energy. Yes, they will talk about you when you are not around. Don’t participate. Yes, they will spread rumors. Don’t acknowledge them. Yes, they will make snide remarks. Don’t respond. These types of people should get zero of your energy and even less of your attention.

The truth is once your begin participating in their game, they have won. And trust me they are much, much better at what they do than you’ll ever be so ignore them. Ignore every single thing they do. Ignore every single thing they say. Ignore any of their soldiers who try to bring that venom into your life.

Absolutely, positively refuse to participate.

When they see you are not willing to play they will find someone else with which to play. And even if they don’t stop just continue to ignore them.

Walking into their world is like walking into quick sand. The more you struggle with them the faster you sink.

It is better not to play in quick sand; it is better to ignore the haters!

Danny

Are You Picky or Do You Simply Know Your Value?

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DannyAre you picky or do you simply know your value?

I believe being “picky” is simply knowing your good enough to deserve something great. There are times in life when people settle for less than they deserve only because they might not realize or understand their value. People remain in bad relationships, settle for unappreciative employers and compromise when they don’t truly understand the value they bring to the table.

The situation I believe demonstrates my point best relates to employment, so let me paint a picture for you.

Let’s say Jane has worked as a customer support specialist for a retail store for 6 years. During that 6 years Jane has developed the ability to overcome any and all difficult customer situations and often has the customer leave happy and ready to return on future visits to continue to shop and spend money with the store. Simply put, Jane is exceptional at what she does.

The retail store has offered a few small raises here-and-there, but has a cap on what they are willing to pay customer service employees like Jane. Not only that, but Jane is expected to work countless hours of overtime, unpredictable weekly schedules and every holiday and weekend. This situation could make Jane feel that her worth is equal to the cap her store has placed on employees who perform customer service and she might easily adopt the mental perception of herself that her value is in direct proportion to what her company is willing to pay.

Then along come 2 other companies who place a tremendously high value on customer service and become aware of the incredible job Jane does on a daily basis. Both of these companies are willing to offer Jane a 50% pay increase and a signing bonus. Her schedule would only require her to work 2 weekends per month and her weekly schedule would only require her to work 8-5 on weekdays and she would be off on all major holidays.

These offers stagger Jane as she never believed nor understood that her particular skill set had tremendous value in the market. Not only is it the skill set these companies appreciate, but it is also the person who Jane is and they respect her dedication and the fact that she loves customer service so much. Simply put, these 2 companies see high value in Jane first, and then they see value in Jane’s ability to provide high levels of customer service. Once Jane realizes other companies see value in her, her eyes become open to the value she should see in herself and she’s no longer willing to accept “less than” any longer. She can now be picky in her choices of employers because she recognizes her own value and is no longer willing to settle for a company that doesn’t also recognize that value.

Here’s the cool thing: when you know your value you do not ever have to settle. When you understand the particular skills you possess and the value those skills have in a market, then you have options, which means you can be picky.

Be picky and don’t settle; don’t ever, ever settle.

Danny

The Truth Is…Life Owes You Nothing

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DannyThe Truth Is…Life Owes You Nothing

There is a truth about life that many people have a hard time accepting: life owes you nothing. Your friends don’t owe you friendship. Your family does not owe you support. Your job does not owe you a raise. Your religion doesn’t owe you enlightenment. Bloggers don’t owe you a Follow. Life doesn’t owe you years on this planet. Your dog does not owe you love.

All of the things above require some type of effort are our part. We must work and prove some type of worth on some level.

We are in a constant state of expanding or shrinking. When we work hard we expand. We we don’t work hard we shrink.

You must get what you want the old-fashioned way….you earn it!

Danny

Why I Made the Decision To Unplug From Social Media

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DannyWhy I made the decision to unplug from social media…

The world that exists now is so different from the world that existed 5 years ago that it’s tough to even compare them. Then I get to thinking about the world that existed in the late 70’s and 80’s that shaped me into the person I am today and boy it seems like I grew up on a completely different planet.

The glaring differences are how easy it is to get in touch with someone now compared to then and how easy it is to get information. Back in the day you would read the paper in the morning and watch the 6 o’clock news to recap and update the goings-on around the city and world.

Now we are inundated with news updates to the point that it is nearly impossible to know what is true and what is false. Emails come pouring in. Text messages and voicemail. It truly is madness.

This is why I made the decision to unplug from social media. I don’t have my blog connected to Facebook, Twitter or Google+. I only visit Facebook on rare occasions of boredom, but only allow myself a few minutes then I’m off again.

My only goal for 2018 is to be the best husband I can be for Evelina. Unplugging from all the social media and distractions allows me time and energy to focus on her and us and the real world.

Thus far I am enjoying the journey. I’m curious to know how much social media influences your life. Drop me your thoughts in the comments and let’s chat about it.

Danny

Partner With Me and Get Your Blog Out To More People: Only 1 Spot Left!!!

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What does friendship mean to you? To me friends are the people who waited out my storms. When I was diagnosed with breast cancer a year and half ago,

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It Feels Good When Life Works In Your Favor

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It Feels Good When Life Works In Your Favor…

I have been holding off on writing this post since January, but I have gotten a promotion at work! For those of you who might be new to my page I work for our country’s largest media group in the digital marketing department. As of 2 days ago I have been promoted to a regional manager’s position for the South Atlantic group which consists of 22 properties.

It is a huge job and I am excited about the challenge.

The promotion process began way back in November 2017 and it required a tremendous amount of patience on my part; corporations don’t always move as quickly as I would like. In my new role I will be traveling to each of the 22 properties assisting them with understanding digital marketing and acquiring new clients in their communities. It will be an incredible experience.

I’ve only been with this company for 20 months and this will be my second promotion, something I take a lot of pride in having achieved. And even more so, this new position was created specifically for me. I have invested myself fully to reaching this goal and it is nice to see the fruits of my labor pay off.

For now I’ll be traveling a lot in the state of North Carolina, but eventually I will venture to Tennessee, South Carolina, Virginia and Georgia also.

I have always believed hard work and dedication pay off and in this instance it paid off big time.

Needless to say I am excited!

Danny

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Blog networking is one of the most undervalued and underused strategies for most. But I believe it is at the core for growing a blog.

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Blog Networking: 5/1/18

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Nature in Motion: The Dance of Life

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There is a certain magic in observing the natural world in its most delicate moments. A dragonfly perched on a weathered stick reminds us of the incredible adaptability and resilience found in nature. These magnificent creatures have survived for hundreds of millions of years, witnessing the rise and fall of empires while remaining largely unchanged. Their ability to hover, to move with precision and grace, teaches us that life often finds its own rhythm, its own perfect balance.

Sometimes the greatest lessons come not from grand gestures but from quiet observations. Nature speaks to those who take time to listen.

Echoes of Home: Memories That Remain

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Every old house holds stories within its weathered walls. The structure may crumble, the paint may fade, and nature may reclaim what was once built by human hands, but the memories endure. Surrounded by lush tropical plants and the passage of time, these forgotten places remind us that impermanence is not something to fear but something to embrace.

Home is about more than just buildings; it's about the people we love and the moments we share. When we look back on our lives, it's not the perfection of our surroundings we remember, but the warmth of those we held close.

The Open Road Calls: Journey Beckons

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There's something about the adventure of travel that stirs the human spirit. An old motorcycle, weathered by countless journeys, represents the freedom of the open road and the stories that come with every mile traveled. Whether it's the thrill of discovery or the simple joy of movement, there's a call within all of us to explore beyond our comfort zones.

Life is the ultimate adventure. The journeys we take, both physical and spiritual, shape who we become. Don't wait for the perfect moment to start your journey?begin right where you are.

Painted Sky: The Golden Hour

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There is a magical moment each day when the sun bows to the horizon, painting the sky in shades of gold, orange, and crimson. This golden hour is nature's reminder that beauty often appears in transition, in the space between one state and another. A beach sunset carries with it a sense of peace and finality that encourages reflection.

We should all pause more often to witness these moments. To stand still and let the beauty of the world wash over us. In this stillness, we find clarity, gratitude, and hope for tomorrow.

Ancient Roots Reaching for the Sky

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A massive tree, its branches spreading wide and reaching toward the heavens, stands as a monument to patience and persistence. For centuries, it has grown, adapted, and thrived through storms and droughts, heat and cold. Its deep roots remain hidden beneath the earth, drawing strength from the soil that nourishes it. This is the wisdom of nature: true strength comes from what we build below the surface.

We too must remember to cultivate our roots?our values, our relationships, our inner strength. When our foundations are solid, we can weather any storm and reach any height.

Partnership and Connection: Two Are Better

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Two birds perched side by side on a power line exemplify the power of partnership. Whether they are mates, friends, or simply fellow travelers on life's journey, their presence together says something profound: we are not meant to journey alone. In companionship, we find strength, support, and joy.

The relationships we nurture become the fabric of our lives. Invest time in those who matter to you. Share your journey with others. Together, we are stronger, braver, and more capable of facing whatever comes our way.

Simple Choices: Balance in Life

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Two clothespins, one pink and one blue, hang on a line. These simple objects teach us about balance and choice. Life often presents us with options: take this path or that one, choose this way or the other. But what if the secret to harmony is not choosing one over the other, but finding balance between them?

Simplicity often holds the greatest wisdom. In our complex world, sometimes we forget that the answers we seek are often found in simple truths. Balance, connection, and intentionality?these are the clothespins that hold our lives together.